Developing an Inner-Compass

Developing an Inner-Compass Program

Peer pressure is one of the toughest challenges kids face while growing up.

It is one of the top reasons why kids get into too trouble. Unfortunately, in the age of camera phones and the Internet, the mistakes kids make can haunt them for the rest of their lives.

To stand up to peer pressure, kids must first decide who they are and what they stand for.

In this program I help them develop 4 key values of self leaders – self-responsibility, integrity, respect, and self-respect.

I encourage kids to choose what they want for themselves before they are in a tough situation and I
teach them how to make good decisions and why it’s important.

And finally, it is so important that kids learn how to say “no” to their peers and “yes” to themselves.. We give kids the language they can use when in tough situations and we practice, practice, practice.

We have a 6-session package that will help kids develop a strong inner compass, learn about their values and who they want to be, the choices they want to make and they learn how to make good decisions and stand up to peer pressure:

Session 1

Kids learn that when they take 100% responsibility for their lives it gives them their ultimate
power. They get to choose who they want to be, what they want to think, how they choose to
feel, how they choose to act, and what they want to create – it realise it is their choice to make.

I share the story Victim Victor Finds His Power and help kids learn to be “the boss of me”. After the story, we give kids a lot of opportunities to practice so they can learn how taking responsibility helps them be more powerful in all areas of their lives.

Session 2

Next, we talk about the value of Integrity. Integrity means doing the right thing, even when no
one else is looking.

When kids live their lives with integrity they learn to trust themselves and others can trust them too.

This leads to high self-confidence and high self-esteem as they learn that their word matters even if they are the only person who hears it.

I share the story No One Will Know Nelson and guide kids to learn about the power of integrity!

We also discuss challenges to our integrity and how to handle broken integrity. At the end of the
session we do a very powerful activity called “How red is the water” that will anchor the impact
of integrity for the rest of their lives.

Session 3

This session focuses on the value of respect. In this session, kids learn that every time
they are with someone they leave a “mark” depending on how they treat them.

Treating others with respect means following the Golden Rule – to treat others well, just as you would want to be treated well.

They learn that when they use manners and treat others with kindness, they leave “gold hearts”
everywhere as opposed to black marks.

I share the story, Make Your Mark with The Golden Rule. To reinforce the learning we challenge the kids to share the lesson of the power of gold hearts with their family at home. It is a very powerful and important session.

Session 4

In session 4, kids learn about the second half of the Golden Rule that is rarely discussed, and that’s self-respect. Having self-respect means giving yourself a “gold heart”. It means standing by your values and treating yourself with as much kindness, patience, compassion and understanding that you would have with your best friend, your favourite teacher, or your favourite relative.

Choosing self-respect builds powerful self-esteem. I share the story, My “Mark” on Me, and they practice making gold hearts for themselves.

Session 5

After we have grounded in core values of self-leaders – developing that inner compass, we shift
into how to make good decisions.

When children are born, their parents make 100% of their decisions for them – from what they
eat to what they wear to where they go. By the time they leave home, they need to be able to
make good decisions for themselves 100% of the time!

Knowing what they believe about key issues such as cheating, lying, stealing, using drugs or
alcohol, engaging in sexual activity, and cutting class can help kids stand against peer pressure
and stay focused on their goals

The goal of this session is to empower children with how to make good decisions and provides a
platform for them to make a decision about the critical issues listed above before they actually
face them.

I share the story Charlie Chooses Charlie to help kids understand the importance of
choosing what they want for themselves before they are in a peer pressure situation. Then we
practice using the “Four C’s of Decision Making” for choosing what they want for themselves in key areas of their lives.

Session 6

For kids, knowing what they stand for, choosing what they want for themselves, and learning
how to say “no” to peers and “yes” to themselves is critical for standing against negative peer

I share the story Copy Cat Cathy and discuss the five different types of peer pressure. I also have the kids brainstorm examples for each type of peer pressure, so they can practice recognizing it when they hear it.

We also discuss different “no” statements they can use and have each child choose and practice two or three “no” statements that work for them.

Then we practice, practice, practice. Role playing is a critical part of developing this skill
because it helps kids identify challenging situations and lets them practice how to respond to

    Programs based on the WISDOM System for Coaching Kids TM